A man, after arguing with his girlfriend and threatening to break up, developed suicidal thoughts. He sealed all interior doors and windows, then lit a pot of charcoal by his bedside in the bedroom, preparing to commit suicide by burning charcoal.On April 30, Nanshan police rescued the man, who was in a deep coma.
At 5:00 PM on April 30, Nantou Police Station received an emergency call from Tianjin reporting that a woman's boyfriend had argued with her and might be suicidal, requesting police to check his residence.
Upon arriving at the scene, officers repeatedly called out and knocked on the door with no response. With the assistance of property management staff, they risked climbing into the residence from a neighboring balcony. Inside, they discovered a pot of burning charcoal beside the bed in the bedroom, where a man lay unconscious on the bed. Officers immediately called emergency services and rescued the man. He is now out of life-threatening danger.
How to Resolve Resentment After Couple Arguments
One: Cultivate Humor.
Recently, Fengfeng reread Qian Zhongshu's Fortress Besieged and discovered it portrays not only the fear and helplessness surrounding marriage, but also the heartbreak and despair lovers experience after a fierce argument.Closing my eyes, I could still feel the terrifying spray of spit and barrage of insults. People often say, "Hitting shows affection, scolding shows love." But this can be misleading. When couples engage in verbal warfare over trivial matters, ending in mutual hurt, it damages not only the individuals involved but also their love. In short, if it can't be avoided, strive to handle it well.
1. If you're in the midst of a heated argument with your partner, you must choose one of the following four responses. Which would you pick? ( )
A You hopeless case! Wish I could smack you silly and send you packing!
B How did I end up arguing with someone this clueless? Does your family even know how clueless you are?
C Stop arguing with me or I'll have a heart attack. Then you'll have to rush me to the hospital—go ahead if you don't mind the hassle.
D I bet you can't win an argument with me. Don't believe me? Try shutting your mouth and see.>No matter which option you pick, it could end the fight right there. No one can resist humor. So if you're a funny person, remember: use your wit during arguments to shut them up or turn their anger into laughter. Never underestimate humor's power.If humor isn't your strong suit normally, no worries—showing humor now proves your high humor quotient! Few can be funny while angry. So if you truly care about them, why not be extraordinary during this fight?
2. Change the subject.
A few days ago, Fengfeng was on a business trip when his car broke down. As he sat sulking, his companion started laughing uncontrollably while holding a phone. Fengfeng asked, half-angry, what she was laughing at. She held the phone up to his face. After watching for a moment, Fengfeng burst into laughter too—she was watching a comedy. This made Fengfeng wonder: Could redirecting attention during an argument slow it down?For example, if your girlfriend is yelling, "You bastard! You have no conscience!" you could say: "Let's grab Western food tonight. In or out?" Or: "Heard 'No Man's Land' is hilarious. Want to catch it tonight? We can finish arguing when we get back." The key is to shift the topic and redirect attention.
Three: Silence is golden.
Leslie Cheung's "Silence Is Golden" has long been hailed as a classic song. Like life itself, sometimes saying less is a blessing—one extra word can be worse than none. This too is wisdom. During an argument, try adopting his silence. Wait until the other person grows tired of talking and runs out of words. Then the issue resolves itself. Anything unresolved can be discussed calmly later.Don't try to out-argue your partner. Arguments have no winners or losers. If anything, winning the argument only means you've lost their heart.
Four: Dramatic gestures.
Speaking of drama, one cannot overlook Shakespeare. His four great comedies and four great tragedies are all filled with twists and turns, climax after climax.We can borrow some of Shakespeare's flair for drama in our own arguments. For instance, when your girlfriend is at the peak of her rage, step forward, embrace her, and tell her you love her. Or simply start singing a song, getting "lost" in it yourself. Or even try acting cute.Ultimately, what you're doing is simply trying to prevent an argument from damaging your relationship. While this doesn't make you a saint, it shows you're someone who understands love and possesses wisdom.