In human interactions, we can never predict what will happen next, so misunderstandings are bound to occur. So, what should we do when misunderstood? Below are six methods to resolve misunderstandings.
Face the misunderstanding calmly
When someone misunderstands you, their emotions are likely running high. They may lash out without regard for your feelings, criticizing or even cursing you. Some might not even look at you, indicating their anger has surpassed verbal expression.Attempting to explain at this point will only invite sarcasm—you'll just make things worse. So when misunderstandings arise, stay quiet and let them vent.
Give each other time to cool down
When a friend misunderstands you, neither of you is calm inside. Trying to resolve the issue while both are still worked up is unlikely to succeed. Therefore, it's essential to give each other space. This period can be short or long, but wait until both parties have calmed down somewhat before attempting to explain.
Let time heal the rift
For deeply rooted misunderstandings beyond explanation, time is the only remedy. Passive waiting isn't ideal, but some people are stubborn and unforgiving. If they won't easily forgive you after the misunderstanding, then time must do its work. Perhaps after experiencing other people and events, or with the passage of time, they'll see the truth and naturally let go of their misunderstanding.
Explain the reasons
Once the other person has calmed down, you can explain to them. You might have felt hurt yourself and avoided meeting them, so you can use a phone call or message to explain the reasons behind the situation. Don't worry about how they react; just make sure you clarify the facts. Then hang up or stop messaging, letting them think it through on their own.
Face-to-Face Clarification
Once both parties have cooled down, arrange to meet your friend in person. Seriously explain the reasons behind the situation. Face-to-face communication allows you to directly observe their emotions and gauge their attitude. This approach is straightforward and highly effective. Sometimes, when we use phone calls, messages, or emails to explain misunderstandings, we simply can't see the other person's attitude, even if their response seems magnanimous.
Enlist Other Friends' Help
If your friend refuses to meet or outright rejects your attempts to clarify, it's time to bring in mutual friends. Ask them to mediate and arrange a meeting. Face-to-face interaction creates the opportunity for explanation and often yields positive results.