For a man, whether he enters marriage at 20 or builds a home at 50, marriage remains a pivotal watershed in his life journey. Therefore, before tying the knot, a man must experience ten things to shake off the dust of desire, paving the way for a smoother, more natural path ahead.
1.Have a stable job
Many inspirational articles claim that if you persistently excel at your work, it will become your career. In reality, a man simply needs to be affiliated with an organization—meaning he belongs to a group that can "manage" him. Even if he runs a street stall, he should have a recognized "status" within the community. This is the foundation for a man to establish himself. Having an organization doesn't equate to having a powerful backer, but in the eyes of others, a man with a job is trustworthy.
2. Maintain a certain amount of savings
While owning a car or property is certainly desirable, not all men can achieve this. At minimum, one should be able to allocate earnings beyond basic survival needs. Crucially, some savings must exist—whether ten thousand or one million is irrelevant. What matters is having peace of mind and room for maneuver.
3. Experience at least one setback
This is crucial. Setbacks mature a man and help him understand himself better. Such failures can be business or emotional—being falsely accused, slandered, abandoned by a lover, or betrayed by a friend. But there must be a "limit." This "limit" means a man can rise again after such setbacks and start anew.
4. Cultivate one or two close friends
Men need one or two genuine friends, ideally not connected through business or career interests. These friendships should be free from financial or professional ties—think classmates, comrades-in-arms, or shared-hobby companions. Unburdened by mutual gain, such friendships become your emotional anchors, profoundly shaping your life.
5. Must have sexual experience and cohabitation history
Men absolutely must not remain "virgins." Most women find it difficult to accept men who have never had sex before marriage. If a man is naturally shy, he might even need to visit adult establishments to "lose his virginity." Once a man has had sexual intercourse, his entire outlook on life undergoes a profound shift, bringing a sense of sudden clarity.Living with a woman is even better. Cohabitation is a rite of passage that forces men to mature. With this experience, they won't feel helpless or anxious about the marriage ahead.
6. Men need to experience an adventure
This adventure doesn't just mean wilderness expeditions; it could even include a reckless romantic gamble or a high-stakes business venture. Such experiences enrich a man. A man with a colorful past is magnetic. Later in life, even if it's just to add interesting anecdotes to conversations, it can spice up daily life.
7. Do something that brings your parents joy
This is the easiest thing to accomplish, for all parents are easily pleased. Even a simple text saying "Take care of yourself" can warm their hearts. Yet the simplest acts are often the most overlooked. Treating your parents well is a test of your own sense of responsibility.
8. Don't let hobbies ruin your ambition
Men are creatures prone to addiction—be it alcohol, cigarettes, online gaming, or gambling—all of which can lead to utter ruin and failure. Therefore, men must not let such pursuits derail their lives. Those who succumb to these vices inevitably face a far more arduous and bumpy road ahead.It's good to have interests and hobbies, but prioritize wisely.
9. Treat Love with Sincerity
Don't envy playboys who change women like clothes. Love that's just a game wastes your time and energy. The greatest pain isn't finding no one to love, but having no love left in your heart. When "I love you" becomes the easiest words to say, you'll struggle to find true happiness in love.
10. Understand that love isn't the same as marriage
Men often believe sex equates to love, while women equate love with marriage. Thus, men would rather believe love is fake than question the truth of sex. Many marriages fail simply because most people lack the ability to truly manage them well. Learn to act within your capabilities.