Do you know what men need? Do you know what men fear most in women? Lack of tolerance.A mother's nagging, a lover's clinginess, a wife's control, a daughter's spoiled demands, a girlfriend's misunderstandings, a female colleague's nitpicking. So men crave tolerance from women. With this tolerance, men may become complacent, but they also find stability, their rightful place, and can savor a sense of accomplishment.
Listening attentively to a man's boasts is an act of tolerance.When men brag in front of women, it's often just a sign of low self-confidence. If women can't listen to men, their confidence struggles to build and eventually crumbles. Allowing men to get lost in meaningless little things is a form of tolerance. Like taking apart lighters over and over, or playing computer games day and night. Men often use these quirks as psychological buffers. Permitting them might actually be a better kind of care and encouragement.
Allowing men to spend time with their friends is an act of tolerance. Men need to revisit their youth periodically—a reenactment of their teenage escape from a mother's overbearing love and concern.
Allowing men to interact with other women is an act of tolerance. Men are naturally inclined to seek out and appreciate beauty in the opposite sex, but not all men fall in love with every woman they see. In fact, men with a keen eye for beauty often cherish their wives the most.
Maintaining appropriate silence when a man lacks ambition is an act of tolerance. Few men can charge forward relentlessly throughout their lives. Most experience periodic emotional fluctuations and behavioral adjustments. Whipping the fastest ox often backfires; men don't always need motivation.
Does such tolerance make men arrogant and reckless? Not necessarily. Men often feel guilty about their shortcomings, and a woman's measured tolerance often becomes their greatest motivation. While some men remain ungrateful, they are the exception. Most men genuinely cherish a woman's tolerance, for it fulfills a real, constant need in their lives.