For a man, how many women should he have in his lifetime to be considered normal? For a man, having these women is quite necessary, so this is something worth understanding.
1. I believe that for a man: he should have three women.
One is the white lotus, representing a boy's first love—pure as ice, beautiful as a dream. She is to be admired from afar but never approached.For many men, she remains an unattainable white lotus, forever swaying in the dreams of their youthful innocence. One is the red rose. She represents a man's passionate love affair. Fiery and intense, electrifying like lightning. Not only can she be held close, but she can be kissed freely. Through the red rose's influence, a boy transforms into a man. For a mature man, the red rose is like an intoxicating wine he can never put down.
Then there is the carnation. It is a man's wife. Warm, elegant, and tenderly affectionate.She is the driving force behind his endeavors, the anchor for his soul, the harbor where he returns. She is his second mother. For a man's nature is forever childlike. The carnation smiles indulgently at his mischief, patiently waiting for him to return home when play grows weary. Thus, throughout a man's journey of growth, he may secretly yearn for a white lotus, passionately love a red rose. But he will choose a carnation to share his life's voyage.
The white lotus is unsuitable for shared life, for she is so ethereal and detached from worldly concerns. The red rose ignites a man's desire to conquer and stirs his testosterone, yet few possess the confidence to live with a truly fiery red rose. He fears either setting himself ablaze or causing collateral damage. What many men truly need is a wife as warm and forgiving as a carnation.
Yet if you are fortunate enough, you may encounter the white lotus of your dreams, transform her into a red rose, and ultimately nurture her into a carnation.
2. How many men should a woman have in her lifetime?
For a woman, you should encounter three men in your lifetime:
One who admires you from afar.He should be someone who secretly admires you, always watching you from afar, always caring about your smallest details. Five or ten years later, when he meets you, he can still casually mention that year, that summer, the blue floral dress you wore, and the smile on your young face in the sunlight.Think about it—you always thought each day was as plain as water, yet someone silently collected every detail about you, quietly fermenting them until that plain water turned into wine. Years later, you'll accidentally uncork the bottle and inhale its rich, fragrant aroma. If a woman never experiences the taste of being silently adored in her lifetime, what a pity that would be.
One is meant to be bullied by you. But the one you bully was once proud too.Yet in the name of love, you easily captured him. Thus he became your brave guardian and loyal servant—walking you home in the dark, running to buy ice cream on sweltering days, watching you fiercely at dances, fearful that even his role as servant might be contested, terrified of losing this humble occupation.Your smile matters most to him; your sigh cuts him to the core. Your gaze is his compass, your heart the treasure he seeks to explore. How dull life would be without such moments of reigning supreme. Then there is the one who comes to reclaim you. Before the first, you were a god. Before the second, a queen. Before the third, you are a lowly maid.At first you resist, you struggle, unwilling to be conquered, captured, reclaimed. You refuse to surrender and submit. Yet gradually, like the Little Prince taming the proud fox, you are tamed. You willingly let him occupy your heart, devoting yourself utterly to him as your king.Throughout your life, no matter how beautiful, talented, or noble you may be, if your heart has never been claimed and captured in the name of love, how incomplete your existence would be.
Do you now understand? Knowing which women should truly be in a man's life is crucial. These women in a man's journey demand careful attention.