They say men are highly goal-oriented. So what motives lie behind each detail of his date with you? Let's examine these dating cues to uncover his true intentions!
1. He asks you out 2-3 days in advance
This shows sincerity—he planned the date well in advance. At the very least, it demonstrates basic social courtesy.
2. Last-minute date on the same day
This guy might just be feeling lonely. If you happen to be lonely too and don't mind the outcome of two lonely souls meeting, then go for it.
3.He says he wants to bring his best friend and asks you to bring someone too. In this situation, it depends on the man's personality: If he's the quiet, reserved type, it means he doesn't feel confident enough for a one-on-one date yet, so he wants a safety net for both of you. If he's outgoing and socially adept, this date is likely just a small social gathering he's organizing, or he might be trying to set up his friend with someone.
4. He specifically asks you to bring a certain
female friend
Forget about it—he's just using you as a stepping stone to meet your sister. Whether you play matchmaker depends on how generous you feel.
5. Cafés, free parks
Choosing free venues or places where you can't stay long indicates he doesn't see much potential in the relationship. He's just testing the waters—if it feels good, he'll consider other plans; if not, he'll grab a coffee and leave immediately.
6. Restaurants, movie theaters, art galleries
Choosing these traditional date spots shows he values this meeting, wants to spend more time with you, and get to know each other better.
8. His place, your place, or a hotel
These are all venues aimed at getting straight to the point. If he immediately suggests going to one of these places, it either means he's very loose or he sees you as easy.
9. Inviting you to his place
This is a sign of a man who's both desperate and cheap, thinking that any woman who has dinner with him should sleep with him.
10. No follow-up contact
He clearly isn't into you and won't pursue anything further. Best to cut ties now to avoid awkwardness.
11. Texting or calling to ask if you got home safely
He still holds a sliver of hope, feels something but isn't sure, or is just being polite. Either way, the potential for development is slim.
12. Dropping you off and leaving immediately without follow-up
This is what a polite man who isn't interested does.
13. Saying he wants to come over to your place
This is relatively polite—he waits until the end to reveal his intentions, which is far better than a one-night stand. So whether to sleep with him is your choice: if you do, there's a 30% chance it'll lead somewhere.
13. He asks to come over to your place
Still polite—he waited until the end to state his intentions, which is way better than a one-night stand. So whether you sleep with him is up to you: if you do, there's a 30% chance you'll keep seeing each other, a 50% chance you'll become friends with benefits, and a 20% chance you'll both pretend nothing happened the next day.
14. He texts or calls you immediately after you get home.
Congratulations—this man has done everything right from start to finish. He's shown 100% respect and 100% genuine interest in you. This could very well be the beginning of a great romance. The decision to accept it is yours.