Many men facing special circumstances—such as long-distance relationships or their wives' pregnancies—have emailed experts seeking advice on how to reduce sexual desire. Compared to the previous flood of requests for ways to enhance sexual performance, these letters moved our reporters, as they reveal a man's sense of responsibility.
What to Do When Your Husband Has Strong Sexual Desire During Pregnancy (Public Health Network)
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What Should I Do During My Wife's Special Period?
Mr. Wen, a devoted husband, has maintained the sweetness of new love with his wife after seven years of marriage. He admits he is a normal man with strong sexual desire. Previously, whenever his wife was menstruating or he was away on business, he would desperately suppress his urges.He never once considered crossing the line... Recently, Mr. Wen received the joyous news that his wife is in the early stages of pregnancy, leaving him overjoyed. Yet this brought new confusion: for the baby's health and safety, abstinence is essential during early pregnancy. He doesn't know how to manage his own needs and even wrote to ask if there are medications available to reduce libido.
Mr. S, who is about to embark on a year-long business trip abroad, faces a similar dilemma. The difference is that Mr. S mentioned he is heading to a relatively liberal country, and he genuinely fears he might succumb to various temptations and do something to betray his wife. Therefore, he also hopes to find a way to quickly reduce his sexual desire.
Regular exercise can alleviate "urges"
As Mr. Wen mentioned, the reporter learned that in real life, many men resort to intense self-suppression to navigate periods when sexual activity is inappropriate.Suppression remains one of the most common methods for managing sexual urges. Exercising willpower to control one's desires is something many must do regularly and can achieve. However, we do not advocate abstinence, as extreme suppression can harm both physical and mental health.
Medical professionals suggest a practical approach: redirecting attention to alleviate sexual urges.
A friend who recently gave birth shared that during her pregnancy and childbirth, her husband—a doctor—frequently played basketball, soccer, and participated in running and other activities. Through vigorous physical exertion, he released accumulated energy to mitigate sexual tension.In her view, her husband is now stronger than before, and she never experienced any "disturbances" during the special period of pregnancy and childbirth, nor did he desperately suppress his desires. Experts believe this approach is worth promoting. Sublimating Inner Desires Mrs. Fei, a university professor, encouraged her husband—a legal professional—to prepare for a potential career shift to part-time law practice when she was planning to conceive.Her husband purchased study materials a year in advance and began preparing. Throughout Mrs. Fei's pregnancy, he remained immersed in studying and exams, motivated by the goal of earning extra money for their baby's formula. When sexual energy is channeled into learning, unexpected success often follows. When their precious daughter was born, Mrs. Fei was delighted to see her husband's passing score on the bar exam.
In life, people can channel the intense energy of sexual desire into cultural pursuits, scientific research, and artistic creation. With passionate dedication and focused commitment, success will be within reach.
Avoiding Certain Aphrodisiac Foods
Since ancient times, foods reputed to stimulate sexual desire have circulated.Modern medicine confirms that some foods do have an effect: asparagus, red peppers, oysters, chocolate, ginkgo, and certain animal organs, among others, have earned the reputation of being "aphrodisiacs." If you are a man hoping to reduce your libido, it is best to avoid consuming these foods. Of course, daily psychological adjustment is also essential.
What to do if your husband has too strong a sex drive during pregnancy?
1. Encourage your husband to masturbate or assist him in doing so.
Suppressing sexual desire is futile. Masturbation satisfies personal needs without harming oneself or others—why not? If your partner's desire is particularly strong, helping him masturbate can fulfill his needs while adding excitement to your sex life—worth a try.
2. Reduce stimulating temptations.
Cool and eye-catching pornographic websites, adult magazines, and pornographic films stir up desire. For those prone to sexual impulses, these are undoubtedly fueling the fire. Avoid them if possible.
3. Shift attention.
For those who habitually use sex to kill time, consider engaging in physically demanding leisure activities like gym workouts, ball sports, hiking, rollerblading, or mountain climbing. Essentially, sweat it out and channel your energy.
Pregnancy Sex Safety Guidelines
1. Avoid sexual intercourse during the first three months and last two months of pregnancy for the baby's safety.
2. Doctors will advise against it if there are obstetric issues like placenta previa.
3. Avoid deep penetration or vigorous thrusting to prevent cervical injury, bleeding, or uterine contractions.
4. During missionary position, the partner must support his weight with his arms.
5. If abdominal pain or vaginal bleeding occurs after intercourse, seek immediate medical attention as it may indicate miscarriage or premature labor risk.
6. Pregnant women with a history of multiple miscarriages or premature births should minimize sexual activity to reduce recurrence risk.