Mothers and fathers teach their children in this way, it's more effective (MassHealth)

　　I. Habits and the cultivation of good habits

　　(A) What are habits

　　Definition of habit: What is a habit? It is a kind of automatic action and stable behavioural style, which is gradually developed in a long period of time, and it is not easy to change the behaviour, tendency or social style. As Chen Heqin said, "Habit is a kind of behaviour, a kind of natural unconscious and unthinking behaviour. Walking, for example, is a habitual behaviour". It does not need to be urged or reminded by others, nor does it need to be done deliberately by oneself, which is called 'habit becomes nature'. Habit is one of the most important qualities that cannot be forgotten.

　　(ii) Content of Good Habit Development

　　The cultivation of good habits in young children generally includes the following aspects: living habits; learning habits; behavioural habits; thinking habits.

　　(iii) Importance of good habits

　　Good habits are the cornerstone of a child's success.

　　Actions form habits, habits form character, character determines destiny. It is crucial for children to develop good behavioural habits from an early age to grow up and become successful in the future. Therefore, it is important to cultivate good behavioural habits at every stage of a child's development. Parents should start from the early childhood education, let the child from the smallest small things to start, and gradually develop good behavioural habits, to exercise their own independent and confident, responsible, willing to learn, love of life, good at getting along with others.

　　(1) The cultivation of good habits in early childhood is the beginning of shaping a child's good character.

　　Because early childhood is the child habits, character formation of the initiation stage, everything is new, everything to learn, everything is in the formation, their plasticity, strong imitation, self-control is relatively poor, parents should use great patience and love, from the understanding of his behaviour, understanding the characteristics of the child child, in the subtle cultivation of good habits.

　　(2) The cultivation of good habits in early childhood is the key to shaping a child's good character.

　　Because this period, the child began to have a certain cognitive ability, judgement, thinking ability, in the encounter problem solving and the curiosity of observing things, and gradually formed their own opinion views and bold imagination. During this period, parents should first understand the behaviour of their children at this time, and should not use adult standards and requirements to discipline them.

　　(3) When children are about to enter primary school, they should cultivate the habits of independent thinking, analysis and induction, research and exploration, and gradually establish their correct values and outlook on life.

　　In short, from a young age to cultivate children's good habits, for the child, has gained half of the success of life, for parents is also the best return on the teaching of children. Starting from small behavioural habits, cultivate children's good behavioural habits, and lay a solid foundation for children's healthy growth.

　　Second, the role of family education in the formation of good habits

　　Family education has the characteristics of early, continuous, authoritative, contagious, timely, etc. Parents should make full use of the above advantages and characteristics of family education to cultivate good habits of young children.

　　Families that are conducive to the healthy growth of children generally have the following common characteristics

　　(1) Parents have strong self-confidence and always have fervent expectations for their children under any circumstances, believing that their children will definitely have a good future.

　　(2) Parents are able to provide their children with a rich life.

　　After entering school, the difference in intellectual qualities among students depends to a large extent on the richness of the contents of pre-school life. Wise parents always let their children participate in various useful activities to broaden their horizons and see more of the world.

　　(3) Pay attention to cultivating children's independence.

　　Three- and four-year-old children want to do everything by themselves, and parents can encourage their children to do what they can independently.

　　(4) Have a reasonable set of family rules that are acceptable to the child.

　　Reasonable scientific family rules are very necessary to restrain children's behaviour and make them develop in a good way.

　　(5) Parents are the children's good friends, good teachers and the children's right hand in learning after school.

　　(6) Care for the child's mental health and pay attention to cultivating the child's good character.

　　(7) Create a good home environment for children to promote the formation of good habits.

　　The formation of a child's good habits can not be separated from a good living and learning environment, in the story of "Meng's mother moved three times" has been told very clearly understand. As the main place where a child lives and learns - the family, what kind of environment should be created? First, lead by example, teaching by example is more important than teaching by words, we all know the importance of habits, habits can form a character, can guide some of the behaviour, determine the success or failure of a person, a person's fate. Good habits are the cornerstone of success, so that a person's lifelong benefit Second, go with the flow, focusing on guidance, each child has their own personality, hobbies and interests, these interests and hobbies is the potential energy and motivation, but we need to pay attention to, to find, to motivate, in order to stimulate the greatest potential. Thirdly, the integration of life, the value of practice, a child, no matter what, will eventually embark on the community, face reality, and all learning in childhood, but also for the service, so we must focus on practice, education in life, so that they grow in the refinement.

　　Third, to promote the formation of good habits of young children's family education methods

　　1、Methods to cultivate good habits

　　The training of good behavioural habits should start at an early age, from the family. In prompting children to develop good behaviours, parents can follow the following six basic principles: First, a favourable environment. Second, patient guidance. Third, timely praise. Fourth, good modelling. Fifth, resolute attitude. Sixth, tacit co-operation. The following are specific instructions for the cultivation of habits of life, behaviour, thinking and learning.

　　(1) Cultivation of Good Living Habits

　　Establish a reasonable living system.

　　Reasonable arrangement of young children's eating, playing, sleeping, hygiene, defecation and other main life content of the order and set out a specific time, the implementation of a reasonable living system, can make the child accustomed to the orderly and regular life, so as to develop good habits of life, growth of independent living ability, and to promote the physical and mental health and growth of the child. 3 ~ 7 years old young children a day of life activities time allocation: the number of times to eat and drink-4 times, the interval of 4 hours, activity time 5 ~ 6 hours, daytime sleep 2 ~ 2.5 hours, nighttime sleep 12 ~ 12.5 hours. hours, activity time 5~6 hours, daytime sleep 2~2.5 hours, nighttime sleep 12~12.5 hours.

　　Cultivate good sleeping habits.

　　Firstly, cultivate the good habit of putting your child to bed and being able to fall asleep on your own. Secondly, cultivate the habit of your child going to sleep on time. When it's time to go to bed, create a sleep environment for your child, such as keeping the indoor light soft, comfortable and quiet, don't make loud noises, don't tease your child too much before going to bed, don't let him get too excited, and don't tell thrilling and scary stories, and let your child relieve himself before going to bed. If your child can't sleep for a while, don't scare him. Otherwise, the child will not sleep well. Again, cultivate the child's habit of getting up on time. If the child goes to bed early at night and has enough sleep time, it is easy to be woken up the next morning. So once your child has a regular sleeping habit, keep it and don't change it easily.

　　Train your child to develop good hygiene habits.

　　Adopting good hygiene habits is good for your child's physical and mental health, and can reduce the occurrence of skin diseases, parasites, gastrointestinal diseases and infectious diseases. As long as the child is able to reach the tap, should be in the care of adults, let him under the tap to wash his own face, behind the ears, neck, wrists and other places. Let your child develop the habit of washing his hands and face in the morning and evening, and washing his hands before going out and coming home and eating. Teach your child to take the initiative to wash his or her hands before meals and after using the toilet, and to wash his or her hands and face anytime after getting dirty. When your child is two years old, start gargling with cool water, and when he or she is three to four years old, let him or her rinse his or her mouth after meals and start brushing his or her teeth, once in the morning and once in the evening. Be sure to teach your child the proper way to brush his or her teeth. Most children prefer to take a bath. If the child is not used to it, let him/her tap the water first and then get into the water when he/she is familiar with it. You should bathe and change clothes every day in summer, and bathe and wash your child's hair regularly in other seasons, and change his or her underwear frequently. Give your child a haircut and cut his/her finger (toe) nails diligently. The child's hair should be neat and generous. In short, if parents should urge more guidance and encourage their children with more words, they will surely make their children gradually develop good hygiene habits.

　　Cultivate your child's good eating habits.