This is too expensive, we can't afford it!

　　Say this 100 times, before the child is 6 years old, one of the tasks of mum and dad is accomplished, and that is to make the child's whole life in the consciousness of poverty inescapable. Thus determining his fate of being poor for the rest of his life. This is the famous too expensive effect.

　　The collateral effects are good, like low self-esteem, introversion, loneliness. There may be some good qualities as well, such as stubbornness, obstinacy, scepticism, defiance, daring to challenge fate, and indomitable struggle against poverty.

　　Poverty starts with a realisation that I can't afford it, they can afford it, I'm not as good as them, followed by two possible consequences, either to admit it or to rise up. Examples of resignation abound, look at your neighbours on the left, look at your neighbours on the right, they are all mass maps of resignation.

　　Do not admit that there are those who have made great efforts, you see Li Na, Yu Minhong are people who have made great efforts and later became rich. However, most of these typical people are still in the mindset of poverty. For example, they sell luxury cars, or change the large wattage light bulbs in the hallway.

　　Yu Minhong just arrived at Peking University inferiority complex is poverty consciousness triggered, not as good as others, and strive to surpass others, even if surpassed, poverty consciousness is still stubbornly affect his judgement of things, the judgement of talent, the judgement of the market. Poverty consciousness has long been entrenched in his heart.

　　Not only him, many people this is not good there, such as Feng Xiaogang, Zhang Yimou and so on. There are also some entrepreneurs Ma Yun, Wang Shi, Liu Chuanzhi all have a deep-rooted poverty consciousness in their bones, swaying their judgement of social values. (more parenting knowledge attention ten point parenting public number: shidianyuer)

　　They lose the opportunity to recognise value, and they don't understand that the affluent value money more, and thus understand the value that money brings, certainly not the role of bragging rights. If you don't have money, you try not to buy products with high prices, and you don't have the opportunity to experience value.

　　With lots of money, one buys expensive ones when one sees them, and one does not seriously and seriously assess the value of the product. Sometimes, one doesn't even know what the expensive products one buys are worth, such as the person who owns an LV bag but doesn't know the core value proposition of LV.

　　There are many other manifestations of poverty consciousness, such as seeing things in a single way, black or white, good or bad.

　　The loss of the ability to recognise values is followed by the loss of the ability to see others, to be objective. When I see others as poor like me, I look down on them. If they are richer than me, they are envied, or else they are hated. Then they also lose the ability to recognise themselves, either through self-loathing or self-aggrandisement.

　　Poverty consciousness is formed before the age of six. Once it is formed, it is impossible to get rid of it, or it is difficult to get rid of it. The focus of children's education is not the children, but the parents. As a parent, think back to how many times you heard the language of poverty consciousness before you were 6 years old.