Ms Chen called to say that their office has a sister Xiaoliu, and her relationship is very good, but in recent times, Xiaoliu has become the female colleagues are reluctant to take care of the object, the reason is that Xiaoliu will frequently take the happiness of their own lives out of the "sun", getting more and more isolated in the office.

　　"Is this your husband you're talking about? Why do I sound like the legend of a filial son." --She drew cynical comments about her behaviour.

　　Ms Chen said that in the office where there are more girls, people talk a little bit about their lives and seem to be close, but when there is such a person in the office who hangs on to her little life all day long, hating to have the whole world know how well she is doing, people feel that they don't have a good feeling in their hearts. She spoke every day is how much her husband loves her to buy her brand-name clothes, home decoration with high-grade materials, bought expensive furniture, the whole one "sunshine happiness". At first, it was quite refreshing to everyone, and then I felt awkward listening to it. Now, she added a problem, over the anniversary, including my birthday, love anniversary, wedding anniversary, when her husband not only to personally send the flowers to the office, but also to send jewellery as a gift, this gift has become her talking points. Valentine's Day, Tanabata have become her "sunshine happiness" a great opportunity.

　　Ms. Chen found that Xiao Liu now this "sun happiness" behaviour into a part of life, every day to talk to colleagues, and sometimes also in the QQ group to say a word, all day "bombard" colleagues' ears and eyes. Ms Chen has obviously felt that some female colleagues in the office has some dissatisfaction with this mood. Some people say that she is showing off, show off, and sometimes sneer a little, which makes Xiao Liu in the office, in the interpersonal relationship has become tense. Once, small willow in and colleagues chat, and chatter: "my husband are group on a say, all day "bombardment" colleague's ears and eyes. Ms Chen has clearly felt that some female colleagues in the office has some dissatisfaction with this mood. Some people say that she is showing off, show off, and sometimes cynical about it, which makes Xiao Liu in the office, in the interpersonal relationships become tense.

　　Once, small willow in and colleagues chat, and chatter: "my husband are centred on me, although he earns a high income, but he usually do not spend much money, in order to me, his card at a time on the brush a few thousand dollars, the eyes do not blink ......" and then, with. very proud eyes looking at everyone, as if to say: "Look, how great is my charm, the husband was tamed by me like this." I didn't expect an oldest sister in the office to say bluntly, "Is this your husband you're talking about? Why do I sound like the legend of a filial son." As a result, this comment made Xiao Liu a big red face, and everyone left unhappily.

　　"The more you are 'red as fire to the sunny pomegranate', the more others are 'sour to the heart with plums at your back'." --My best friend wanted to remind, but afraid to leave an impression of "envy and jealousy".

　　Ms Chen also heard people in the same office talk: to tame her husband to bow to the ear to do housework, their own body beads of jewellery, her husband's hands are not a dime, wimpy like this, such a thing can be called a family scandal, said "family scandal" can not be spread, this kind of thing to say, what is the strength of it? Some even secretly predicted, don't look at the present happy, beware of the future marriage "pull list"! Look at the office of the people on her cynical, Xiaoliu also feel aggrieved, she said to Ms Chen, because I treat everyone as a friend, only to say these words.

　　Watching Xiao Liu in the office more and more isolated, Ms. Chen is very anxious, as a good friend without words, would like to kindly remind her, even if you feel happy, do not be too exposed, so as not to invite others to annoy, but also afraid to give each other an "envy, jealousy and hatred" of the impression, Ms. Chen really a bit of a dilemma, why would Xiao Liu be so obsessive "sunshine happiness"! "sun happiness", her happiness in the end should be high-profile sun out, or should be low-key own secretly happy? To this end, the host consulted Fuzhou City Sunshine Psychological Service Centre Chen Zhenping director.

　　Psychological analysis

　　"Sun" is not "happiness" but the inner weakness!

　　Director Chen Zhenping said, from Xiao Liu's psychological analysis, in fact, she "sun" is not "happiness", but the inner weakness. This is a kind of inner desire to be concerned, to be sure of the performance. There are four possible reasons for the formation of this kind of psychology:

　　Firstly, it is the inferiority complex: the environment of growing up leads to the existence of inferiority factors in the character. The reason why people say things like "my husband loves me so much" is that they want to conclude that they are excellent from their emotional excellence.

　　Second, excessive narcissism: vanity prompted her to make "sunshine happiness" action, in the process of sunshine extremely enjoy the envy or jealousy cast by others.

　　Third, is the lack of security: because of the great instability of marriage, "sunshine happiness" is often want to get stable. In her heart, she naively thought that when the depth of the love affair in the light, it will be more secure.

　　Finally, is due to the emptiness of life: perhaps she really is not do not want to say something else, show something else, just can let her show off the limited resources, "sun happiness" has become her only fun to do things.

　　As a good friend, Ms. Chen can completely with the small Yang remind: really happy, even if not to sun, others can see; even to sun, but also pay attention to the feelings of the surrounding people, moderate sincere sharing can be. A woman who has tamed her husband into submission is not cute. "Cherish happiness", "management of happiness" is much more important than "sunshine happiness"!