Don't think your love is selfless, love is all an investment.

　　When you offer your deep affection, infatuation, and fidelity, what you need is for the other person to throw passion, affection, and devotion at you as well. It's a love-for-love investment. When you see this clearly, you will avoid "think they are very selfless, the other party does not appreciate" such "false aggrieved", to avoid asking "I love him why he does not love me" this silly question! The following are some of the things that you can do to make sure that you are not in the wrong place.

　　You love him, it is your investment, he has the right not to accept. It's like if you want to buy his puppy, he can not sell it - because as long as it is an investment, there is a return. Everyone who accepts an investment from someone silently evaluates what he wants in return, can I give it? Many people have encountered aggressive suitors who spare no money, time or even self-respect - but they have only one goal - to claim their love, which is similar to claiming one's life, and of course cannot be accepted easily.

　　There are women for the love of men, cooking, delivery, accompanied by playing football, stay up late, change dress, change character ...... simple and selfless, but often the man scared away - you're so good to him, want him to take what return you? Take lifelong dedicated love, or marriage? To know, these two are the man's most expensive capital. Sometimes, a woman's naivety and selflessness, but is a most risky investment, pay everything, and the other side instead of escape. You think you are selfless, but in the view of the other side, you are selfless in exchange for his most expensive cost, can not afford to lose.

　　So, what needs to be learnt is that love needs rational protection and you need some investment insight.

　　Beautiful and down-to-earth love, often follow a law: small and gradually increasing investment, with a stable and balanced return.

　　First, you need to assess the risk. A smart investor doesn't always seek low risk. You can love people who seem a little distant from you and challenge some difficult relationships. But you need to assess the risk before confessing on the spur of the moment - can you afford it if the other person doesn't accept your investment. If the investment is made and will still fail, can you afford it.

　　Next, gather timely feedback from the other person to determine whether to continue to invest. If you invested a smile, the other party accepted and returned a look ...... you can continue to invest a meal, if the other party accepted and returned a film, you can continue to invest ...... when an investment situation is not good, such as the other party does not accept it, or he doesn't invest after accepting it, then you have two choices: pull out of the investment, or take a chance and buy in.

　　Whether you give up or continue, you need to control your fear, greed, insecurity and disappointment. Because you're playing with the unknown, you have desires and needs, and you can't ignore them, so all of these negative feelings are normal, and you have to be prepared to live with them. More critically, no matter how bad all these feelings are, you have to turn them into action to see their value.

　　Note that comparing love to investing doesn't mean that love isn't pure and beautiful, it's still the most magnificent emotion a person can have on earth, but magnificent and dreamy things often require a lot of real work, such as the craftsmanship that goes into cutting a diamond, or the refracting mirrors that create a rainbow ......

　　In love you can not seek fame, not to profit, and even some people do not demand love from the other side, but please note that the love cast itself, to Allah himself is a kind of satisfaction, you may not want anything, but you at least want an emotional outlet - love belongs to, love has to rely on, if someone is willing to allow you to put your love on him, it is necessary to be grateful! The.

　　So if you are in love more or less thirsty for some return, please remember to use the investment of reason and transposition of the mood.