Don't assume your love is selfless—all love is an investment.
When you offer your deep affection, devotion, and loyalty, you need the other person to reciprocate with passion, devotion, and faithfulness. It's an investment where love is exchanged for love.Once you recognize this, you'll avoid the "false grievance" of thinking "I'm so selfless, yet they don't appreciate it," and stop asking the foolish question, "Why doesn't he love me back when I love him?"
Your love is an investment, and he has the right to decline it. It's like you wanting to buy his puppy—he can refuse to sell. Because every investment demands a return.When accepting another's investment, everyone silently assesses: Can I deliver the return they seek? Many encounter aggressive suitors who spare no expense, time, or even dignity—yet their sole aim is to demand love, akin to demanding life itself. Naturally, such offers cannot be accepted lightly.
Some women cook, deliver meals, accompany men to sports, stay up late, alter their style, and even change their personality for the man they love—pure and selfless, yet they often scare him away. What do you expect him to give in return for all this? A lifetime of faithful love? Or marriage? Remember, both are a man's most precious assets.Sometimes, a woman's innocent selflessness becomes the riskiest investment: giving everything, only to have the other person flee. You may see yourself as selfless, but to him, you're trading your selflessness for his most costly asset—something he can't afford to lose.
Therefore, what you must learn is that love requires rational protection—you need an investor's perspective.
Beautiful, grounded love often follows a pattern: small, gradually increasing investments paired with stable, balanced returns.
First, assess the risk. A smart investor doesn't always seek low-risk options. You can pursue those who seem out of reach, challenging yourself in complex relationships.But before impulsively confessing, assess the risk—can you bear it if your investment isn't accepted? Can you handle failure if you invest and it still falls through?
Second, gather timely feedback to determine whether to continue investing. If you invest a smile and it's accepted, met with a glance... you can invest a meal. If that's accepted and met with a movie date, you can keep investing...When an investment shows poor returns—like rejection or no reciprocation—you have two choices: withdraw your investment or take a risk and buy more. Whether you abandon or persist, you must manage your fear, greed, anxiety, and disappointment. You're playing a game with the unknown. You have desires and needs you can't ignore, so these negative emotions are normal. Prepare to endure them.More crucially, no matter how unpleasant these feelings become, you must channel them into action to realize their value.
Note that comparing love to investment doesn't diminish its purity or beauty—it remains humanity's most magnificent emotion. Yet magnificent, dreamlike things often require substantial practical effort: the skill to cut diamonds, the prism that creates rainbows...
In love, you may seek neither fame nor gain, and some even refrain from demanding reciprocity. Yet remember: the very act of investing love brings fulfillment. You may ask for nothing in return, but you need an outlet for your emotions—a place for affection to belong, a anchor for love to rest. If someone allows you to place your love upon them, that is something to be grateful for.
So if you crave some return in love, remember to approach it with the rationality of an investment and the empathy of putting yourself in their shoes.