Leilei, just starting first grade, came home wanting to look up Chinese essay materials online. No sooner had he turned on the computer than his mother, who was in the kitchen, walked into the room and scolded him: "Why are you playing on the computer the moment you get home? Do your homework first!" No matter how Leilei explained that he turned on the computer specifically for homework, his mother was convinced he was playing games. In the end, Leilei had to shut down the computer, but he was furious with his mother because she always questioned his actions like this.As Le Le grew older, he became increasingly resentful of his mother's constant questioning. Eventually, he stopped listening to anything she said. Their relationship deteriorated significantly.
Parents, worried their children might get into trouble or develop bad habits, naturally tend to be strict. This strictness often manifests as constant questioning of their children. Yet, a child's healthy psychological development relies on parental love and support. A parent's trust is crucial for building a child's self-confidence.Especially now, with children maturing early, many parents feel unprepared. Their anxiety often translates into tighter control over their children. It's true that we all grow up under our parents' expectations—including those demanding ones—yet children never seem to meet their parents' standards.
Parents' habitual questioning creates distance between them and their children. Parents complain that their children are disobedient, while children resent their parents' lack of trust.Healthy parent-child bonds must be cultivated from early childhood, as a child's confidence and sense of security stem from this foundation. A child's belief that they are loved, valued, and affirmed by their parents often arises from positive parental actions and praise. To raise mentally healthy children and foster harmonious relationships, parents should abandon habitual doubt, grant ample trust, and when issues arise, first seek to understand the situation rather than rush to blame.