At the time, I had no choice. I managed to get her to sign a commitment letter, promising her two months to break up with her boyfriend and come with me. The letter included terms like me buying a house within two years and handing over all my assets for her to manage. After that, I moved to my current city—far away from her. During this period, I visited her twice and successfully slept with her. But now, the agreed-upon date is fast approaching.I've asked her if she plans to break up with her boyfriend. But she keeps saying the timeframe is too short—she only agreed to such a tight deadline in a moment of passion. I'm really distressed now. Plus, the agreement states that if she can't make it happen within two months, I'll use my own methods to force them apart. I told her I have the handwritten agreement and even recorded our conversation.I'll bring all this out. But she keeps saying I wouldn't be that heartless. She even says if I do this, she'll leave both of us. The thing is, the agreement says I can do this, and she won't blame me.
I understand women are emotional.I've been pressuring her intermittently. Today I even told her I have her boyfriend's number. Truthfully, I don't want to intervene. I just want them to part ways peacefully. Chengzhen, I found true love using your "Fall for Me" method. I truly don't want to let go. But now I'm unsure what to do. Please help me. Thank you so much. Chengzhen: First, most of what you've done so far is excellent.
You might be wondering—you've already slept with her. In terms of the entire attraction process, you've reached the final step. And this happened while she had a boyfriend.
It's also clear this woman is deeply attracted to you!
But why do I say "most things" were done well, rather than simply saying you did well?
It's probably because my standards are quite high.
From some details in your letter, I see you haven't fully grasped what attracting a woman truly entails. Honestly, this frustrates me a bit:
1. You made an agreement or promise with her. "I managed to get her to sign a commitment letter, giving her two months to break up with her boyfriend and be with me."
2. You tried to force them to break up using your methods.
Think about why you needed promises?
You kept promising her, kept making her promise you, made her write a promise letter.
Because you feared losing her, because you lacked security, because you wanted insurance, because you felt without promises you couldn't keep a woman permanently by your side. You tried to bind her with promises instead of figuring out how to maintain long-term attraction with her.Didn't she and her boyfriend make promises? Yes! Definitely. We men love doing that. So should she choose your promise or her boyfriend's? Doesn't this push her into a conflicting dilemma? Yuxintong Men's Network, the emotional entertainment paradise for men.
How can you expect her to choose?
So you try to "force" her with your methods.What would a woman truly feel if you did this?
She would think:
1. You completely fail to understand her predicament;
2. You don't love her—otherwise you wouldn't put her in such a difficult position;
3. You lack confidence, so you constantly resort to promises, agreements, and coercion to "threaten" her;
4. You're no longer the man she imagined could bring her joy, because you constantly make her uncomfortable.
What you should do instead:
1. Be tolerant and keep attracting her. Imagine you have two women: one constantly watches you, demands you break up with the other, while the other doesn't care about anything, just happily enjoys being with you every day. Which would you choose?
Don't be the man who watches her every move. You must outshine the other woman by being more charming.Charm includes tolerance, generosity, and indifference. You can continue dating other women—there's no contradiction. But when you're with her, don't mention her boyfriend at all. Pretend he doesn't exist.
She will naturally make a choice, and if you do this, her choice will naturally be you.
2. Forget your so-called promises or agreements. Forget them completely.