Some say love is all about feeling—just go with the flow, right? Why bother with all these rules?
So they casually manage their relationships, treating their partners without care or restraint.
Guess what? They all ended up breaking up.
Relationships require nurturing; romance demands skill. Acting purely on impulse easily wounds hearts—this is a stark reality you must face.
I sometimes laugh at myself for worrying so much about readers' happiness. If I don't address the issues people face in relationships, I just can't feel at ease.
Ah, I'm just born to worry. I ask for nothing else but that you readers approach my words with an open heart. Thank you.
Back to the topic: the headline says, "People who date like this all break up eventually." So today, I'll talk about those wrong ways of dating.
As always, take it to heart if it applies to you, and strive to improve if it doesn't.
When it comes to flawed approaches to relationships—or rather, flawed mindsets in nurturing affection—the first thing I must highlight is "overwhelming feelings of sacrifice."
Honestly, I've always advocated that relationships are a two-way street. One person shouldn't bear all the silent burdens, nor should they be greedy. And you certainly shouldn't take another's sacrifices for granted.
You should invest in a relationship, but never constantly remind the other person of your sacrifices. This excessive sense of entitlement suffocates them, making them feel indebted to you.
For example, many people love to say things like, "You're lazy and unappreciative! Look at how much I've sacrificed for this relationship, and then look at you—don't you feel ashamed?"
Don't do this. Otherwise, you'll make the other person feel unequal, as if they're indebted to you. When this feeling builds up over time, the relationship will inevitably end.
Besides the sense of sacrifice, there's another thing that's particularly uncomfortable and can easily lead to a breakup.
It's a mistake many people make: placing excessive demands on others. How so?We humans often fail to see ourselves clearly, unaware of our own limitations. Our minds fill with fantasies of a perfect partner, convinced only such a person is worthy of us.
They constantly compare their imagined ideal to the real person. The moment they find discrepancies, demands start flying—criticizing weight gain and demanding weight loss, complaining about narrow-mindedness or lack of knowledge.
If you're so demanding of others, why not focus on becoming exceptional yourself first?
Frankly, people like this seem to think they can fly to the heavens—no wonder relationships end.
Life rewards those who put in the effort, and love does too.
I strongly advise everyone: whether dating or married, nurturing your relationship, please understand yourself first. Figure out who you truly are before passing judgment on others.
What does it mean to understand yourself?
I mean: Do you truly grasp how much you've invested? What kind of person are you, really? Is your so-called "investment" genuine effort or just empty words? If you constantly criticize others for falling short, are you truly exceptional yourself?
No one likes being pressured, and everyone resents being criticized or looked down upon.
This holds true for friends and colleagues, and even more so for partners and family.
So, I hope you can think more clearly, be less confused, and grow in maturity and wisdom. Happiness and joy will then come your way.