Thousands of men could make a good husband for some woman.
When my lawyer friend uttered this sentence, enunciating each word deliberately, I nearly slid off my chair in shock.
Don't be so dramatic. The same could be said to men: thousands of women could make good wives for you.You know I'm not implying that anyone is suitable for marriage. My upbringing and profession prevent me from uttering such nonsense. I'm merely challenging the notion of "the one and only" that writers often promote in their works. My friend continued eloquently.
There is no such thing as "the one and only." It's a deception.
Look around you—what is truly unique? The sun? The universe holds countless suns, larger and brighter than it, as numerous as the sands of the Ganges. Fingerprints? Fingerprints can also be identical, though theoretically, such a match might occur only once in billions. Fortunately, we're not searching for criminals when choosing husbands—such precision isn't necessary. In many matters, excessive precision inevitably leads to harm.Choosing a partner is fundamentally a fuzzy mathematical problem—you must be deliberately vague when it counts. There's a dangerous saying: "No two leaves are alike." I believe under a scientist's electron microscope, leaves might show stark differences, like the dividing line between Chu and Han. But to the average eye, they are remarkably similar. Insisting on seeing vast differences in fundamentally alike things is nothing but neurotic pretentiousness.
Marriage is an ordinary matter for ordinary people—don't artificially complicate it. The man suited to be your husband is by no means a one-of-a-kind rarity. Just as we are ordinary women who have always existed, those ordinary men have also lived securely on this earth for many years. We are not merely individuals but represent a type—much like how those who love dumplings often adore steamed buns and stuffed pancakes too.Science has long proven that onions and carrots share compatible natures and inevitably become good friends. Soybeans and castor beans coexist peacefully by nature. Roses and lilies planted together flourish with abundant blossoms and lush foliage. Yet cabbage and celery clash, utterly incompatible. Cloves and daffodils are like oil and water. Tulips, frankly, will kill forget-me-nots...If you are a rose, simply seek out a lily with clear-eyed determination, and you will find happiness.
Of course, while the absolute number of people in any given category may be large, the world is vast and people are constantly moving about. Whether we can encounter a specific, suitable partner at a specific moment is not something to be overly optimistic about.
Believing in the one and only dooms you to stumble through the vast sea of humanity, searching endlessly—like a small boat trying to catch a trout lurking in unknown depths. What awaits you are countless parched dawns and sleepless moonlit nights.
Clinging to the desire for the one and only often leads women to assemble boyfriends and husbands.Appearance is a crucial asset, naturally ranking high on the list. Add to that one with a high degree, another from a good family, yet another with a gentle temperament, and still another with a successful career... Women would love to dissect men, chop off their most outstanding parts, and with their delicate hands, glue these components together into a flawless new man—how wonderful that would be!
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