There's a popular saying these days: even the happiest marriage in the world has 200 thoughts of divorce and 50 urges to strangle your partner. Sometimes you love him deeply; other times, you'd like to shoot him dead.Most of the time, on your way to buy the gun, you spot his favorite dish at the market, buy the groceries, and forget the gun. Then a few days later, you think, "No, I still need to buy that gun..."
Living together under one roof, couples inevitably face bumps and scrapes. Marriage requires nurturing and adjustment; affection grows through shared experiences.
Intimacy between spouses must be built on a foundation of mutual security and belonging. Its development, continuity, and preservation depend on consistent tenderness, affection, and mutual fulfillment—ensuring both partners constantly feel loved. Yet the path to establishing such intimacy is fraught with diverse obstacles. Only by overcoming these hurdles can true closeness take root.
In today's society, open-mindedness and emotional freedom have subtly eroded people's resolve to uphold marriage, making it as fragile as paper. But what of our deepest, most beautiful aspirations? Are they merely slogans? Even Jacky Cheung admitted in an interview, "During arguments, we might threaten divorce, but those are just rash words spoken in the heat of the moment."
Facing marriage, one may feel disheartened or disappointed. Yet, please do not forget the longing for eternal devotion deep within your heart. Know that such beauty requires wisdom, steadfastness, and a proactive attitude to attain. In this world, which couple's marriage is truly perfect like poetry? If we let go of someone's hand too easily, how many hands can we hold in this lifetime?If you transform thoughts of giving up into determination to confront and solve problems, believe that solutions always outnumber difficulties. Don't assume a new partner will make marriage smoother. Love may differ, but the principles of nurturing a marriage are largely the same. Unless absolutely necessary, shift your approach to nurturing your marriage. Those who let go too easily will never find beautiful legends, because marriage is a lifelong endeavor that requires constant cultivation.
As the saying goes: Conquering a kingdom is easy; holding it is hard. Marriage is the same—falling in love is easy; staying together is hard.
So how do we keep marriage fresh for a lifetime? It requires both partners to cultivate and nurture it together. The University of Michigan's Relationship Research Group, through long-term studies, summarized "10 Habits of Happy Couples": 1. Go to bed at the same time. 2. Walk shoulder to shoulder or hold hands.3. Speak words of encouragement, not criticism. 4. Embrace each other. 5. Cultivate shared hobbies. 6. Always say goodnight. 7. Show affection publicly. 8. Prioritize intimacy. 9. Say thank you often. 10. Address minor issues promptly.