Some people, despite being repeatedly hurt and deceived, still foolishly trust others. How do these individuals with extremely low self-protection instincts survive? First, see if you're also a fool when it comes to self-protection.
Question: When meeting a stranger for the first time, what do you dislike most?
A. Being distant and unapproachable.
B. Getting too close, patting your shoulder, and acting like old buddies.
C. Talking incessantly, using smooth talk, treating you as an audience.
D. Constantly asking personal questions, like an interrogation.
A. Acting distant and unapproachable.
You possess an introverted nature yet harbor strong ambitions deep down. You yearn for fulfilling relationships and wish to establish positive connections with strangers,yet you believe initiating conversations undermines your dignity. Frankly, you see yourself as highly charismatic—though this is merely your expectation. Others may perceive things differently. Thus, you unconsciously project your expectations onto them. When they fail to meet them, you grow resentful.This subjective expectation easily offends people and creates enemies. So when you find yourself with adversaries, it's wise to reflect: have you offended someone again?
B. Approaches you proactively, slaps your shoulder, and calls you "bro."
Your self-protective instincts run strong. With strangers, you instinctively keep your distance—lacking confidence in your own social skills and distrusting others' intentions. Subconsciously, you reject anyone who invades your personal space or touches you without permission.Consequently, you develop aversion toward them, subconsciously perceiving their approach as disrespectful to your thoughts and values—an affront that naturally categorizes them as "other," placing them among your enemies. Thus, your adversaries typically exhibit arrogance and a lack of respect.To reduce your enemies, sometimes it's best not to overreact. Perhaps the person isn't malicious, just overly generous or blunt. C. Monopolizing the conversation, being smooth-talking, treating you as an audience. You deeply dislike being an audience member—to put it plainly, you hate being perpetually passive in social interactions.In interpersonal psychology, who initiates conversation and how long they speak signals their dominance. If someone immediately launches into a monologue, treating you like a silent listener, they likely view you as an emotional dumping ground or aim to intimidate you from the start.Your aversion to such individuals stems from a refusal to be overpowered or to have your right to speak disregarded. Thus, your adversaries are likely these talkative types or those who stifle your opinions. Particularly smooth-talking individuals strike you as untrustworthy, and future encounters may find you giving them the cold shoulder—adding yet another enemy to your list.
D. Constantly asking personal questions, like an interrogation.
You're someone who tends to keep to yourself, valuing privacy. Facing individuals who seek to control others makes you feel pressured. While such people may genuinely want to get to know you better quickly, if they ask relentlessly without sharing their own background or allowing you to ask questions, it suggests they have a strong need for control.