There was a grandmother who said that her grandson's life lacked gold, and immediately took off her gold ring and stuffed it into the child's mouth, and the three-month-old child swallowed it at once and almost lost her life;

　　There was also a grandmother who was overjoyed with her new grandson. In accordance with the "custom" to use money to give the child a bath. As a result, the child's skin was severely allergic, covered with red bumps, crying and screaming. In this case, the grandmother didn't think anything was wrong.

　　2. Forcing the child to eat

　　The old idea is that it is best for the child to be fat and white. The old man also always hope that the child eat very hold, so the habit of non-stop feeding, and even chasing to feed.

　　Some children do not want to eat, the old man will be coerced, coaxed with snacks, with verbal threats, "do not eat I will let the police arrest you", with cartoons to lure ...... In fact, the more forced, the more the child excluded from eating, but also cause the child to eat snacks, watching TV during dinner. The most important thing to remember is the fact that you can't get rid of the bad habits of your children.

　　3. Chasing children to eat

　　In the kindergarten, in the playground, the child is particularly happy to play, the old man took advantage of his not paying attention to the mouth to stuff a fruit. In the old man's opinion: only at this time, the child will not easily resist, stuff a, the child will eat a. If he eats one, he will eat one.

　　Is the old man doing the right thing? In fact, this small action is very easy to destroy the development of the child's attention. When some children go to school, why do they have poor concentration? In fact, it has to do with being "disturbed" little by little when he was a child.

　　4. Dress your child in a lot of clothes

　　Old people are afraid of the cold, so they used to dress their children a lot. The child is pure yang, he is not afraid of cold, unless he is born with a weak constitution. As a result, when the child is exercising, it is easy to sweat, and when the sweat is cold, the child is hot and cold, which makes it easier to get sick.

　　5. Encourage your child to lie

　　Daughter's mouth has a sweet taste, mom asked: you eat sugar? She thought for a moment and said: Eat. At this point the grandfather rushed out and said: you traitor, I have told you not to tell your mother, you still tell your mother.

　　Mom knew that she couldn't fight with the old man, so she suppressed her emotions and said to her child: Be honest with your mom, if you eat it, you've eaten it.

　　The next day, the child ate the candy again, the mother asked again, the daughter was puzzled for half a day, thought about it, and said: I ate or did not eat it? She did not know how he should answer.

　　On the one hand, the boy was afraid that his grandfather would call him a traitor, and on the other hand, he was afraid that his mother would worry. You see, children are natural diplomats, so many parents find that their children can be good at reading people's minds. They'll see what the grandparents allow, and if mom and dad won't allow it they'll leave them alone and go to the grandparents instead.

　　6. Limit your child's exploration

　　Older people most often tell their children, run slowly, don't fall. After the age of one and a half, in fact, often grandparents a little less attention, the child a smoke is gone. So the old man is afraid: I simply hold him. What will happen if you hold your child a lot? Once the child can walk, but do not want to walk, always want to let adults hold. The child will also form a sense of not daring to take risks, there are dangers ahead, it's better to stay with grandma. This will easily raise timid children.

　　7. Elderly hearing loss

　　Some of the elderly hearing loss, always speak too loudly to the child, and when watching TV used to turn on the TV louder. This will damage the child's hearing in the long run.

　　8. Satisfy the child's snack requirements

　　The child cried, what sugar, soda, snacks are given to the child to eat, love the child to the point of no control. The elderly do not know what food additives, and do not know that snacks are harmful to children's health, not to mention additives will damage the child's brain.

　　9. "Replace" the child to do things

　　Mom asked: Baby, where did you go to play today?

　　Grandma said we went to the park today.

　　Mom didn't say anything, and then asked: Which child did you see today?

　　Grandma said: We saw whoever.

　　Another example, the child likes to help mom before dinner, the elderly at home are very worried about the rice bowl will fall, usually the child is not yet up, the old man took over.

　　These behaviors, in fact, is to reduce the child's opportunity to learn on their own, the child's language development and the development of motor coordination and sealing ability are affected.

　　10. Help the child dress

　　A lot of children three or four years old, do not know how to tie their own shoelaces, can not wear clothes. Older people say that the child is small, adults should help, or that the child is not dressed correctly, out of the people will make people laugh at adults did not do their duty. But in fact, there is a process for children to learn how to dress and wear shoes, and if they make a lot of mistakes, they will slowly correct themselves. If you always help your child to wear shoes, your child won't have the chance to make mistakes and correct them, so naturally they won't.

　　11. Elderly people lack vigor

　　Nowadays, many families in big cities have older people. This is because young people in big cities are delaying their marriages and having children, and they have less time to spend with their children after they go to work. These lack of vitality of the elderly to bring up children, they and the child physical contact is small, easy to cause the child's lack of security. Skin-to-skin contact between mother and baby is the basis for babies to establish a sense of security.

　　These children will not take the initiative to communicate with others when they grow up, and they do not know how to communicate with others; they tend to be introverted and even depressed.

　　12. The child falls down to pursue the responsibility of the table

　　The child hit the table fell, the old man rushed to the wailing child picked up, "hit it, the table is not good, hit the baby, hit it ......" This is child-rearing or harm to the child? This kind of teaching, so that the child is not right and wrong, when they grow up, often their own mistakes and faults pushed to the objective environment or others, such children, not good at self-summarization and correction, but also will eventually become self-deceived.

　　13. Deceiving children

　　"You will eat this bowl of rice, grandma will take you to buy candy later", "you go to bed, grandpa will take you to the park tomorrow" ...... As a result, the child happily ate and went to bed, but Grandparents deliberately forget the promise, or simply say "next time to buy you", "next time to take you to play", the child also has self-esteem, be cheated more, will develop the habit of suspicion, and gradually, also learn to cheat others.