There was a grandmother who said that her grandson's life lacked gold, and immediately took off her gold ring and stuffed it into the child's mouth, and the three-month-old child swallowed it at once and almost lost her life;

　　There was also a grandmother who was overjoyed to have a new grandson. In accordance with the "custom" to use money to give the child a bath. As a result, the child's skin was severely allergic, covered with red bumps, crying and screaming. In this case, the grandmother didn't think anything was wrong.

　　2. Forcing the child to eat

　　The old idea is that it is best for the child to be fat and white. The old man also always hope that the child to eat very hold, so used to keep feeding, and even chasing to feed.

　　Some children do not want to eat, the old man will be coerced, coaxed with snacks, with the language threat "do not eat I will let the police arrest you", with cartoons to lure ...... In fact, the more forced, the more the child excluded from eating, but also cause the child to eat snacks, watching TV when eating! The most important thing to remember is the fact that you can't be a good person and you don't want to be.

　　3. Chasing children to eat

　　In the kindergarten, in the playground, the child is particularly happy to play, the old man while he is not paying attention to the mouth to stuff a fruit. In the old man's opinion: only at this time, the child will not easily resist, stuff a, the child will eat a. If he eats one, he will eat one.

　　Is the old man doing the right thing? In fact, this little action is very easy to destroy the development of the child's attention. When some children go to school, why is their concentration poor? In fact, it has to do with being "disturbed" little by little when he was a child.

　　4. Dress your child in a lot of clothes

　　Old people are afraid of the cold, so they used to dress their children a lot. The child is pure yang, he is not afraid of cold, unless he is born with a weak constitution. As a result, when the child is exercising, it is easy to sweat, and when the sweat cools down, the child is hot and cold, which makes it easier to get sick.

　　5. Encourage your child to lie

　　My daughter had a sweet taste on her mouth, so my mother asked: did you eat sugar? She thought for a moment and said: I ate. At this point the grandfather rushed out and said: you traitor, I have told you not to tell your mother, you still tell your mother.

　　Mum knew that she couldn't get into a fight with the old man, so she suppressed her emotions and said to her child: Be honest with your mother, if you eat it, you've eaten it.

　　The next day, the child ate the candy again, the mother asked again, the daughter was puzzled for half a day, thought about it, and said: I ate or did not eat it? She did not know how he should answer.

　　On the one hand, the boy was afraid that his grandfather would call him a traitor, and on the other hand, he was afraid that his mother would worry. You see, children are natural diplomats, so many parents find that their children can be good at reading people. They'll see what the grandparents allow, and if mum and dad don't allow it they'll leave them alone and go to the grandparents instead.

　　6. Limit your child's exploration

　　Older people most often tell their children, run slowly, don't fall. After the age of one and a half, in fact, often grandparents do not pay attention, the child is gone in a puff of smoke. So the old man is afraid: I simply hold him. What happens when you hold your child a lot? Once the child can walk, but do not want to walk, always want to let adults hold. The child will also form a sense of not daring to take risks, there are dangers ahead, it's better to stay with grandma. This will easily raise timid children.

　　7. Elderly hearing loss

　　Some of the elderly hearing loss, always speak too loudly to the child, and when watching TV used to turn on the TV louder. This will damage the child's hearing in the long run.

　　8. Satisfy the child's snack requirements

　　The child cried, what sugar, soda, snacks are given to the child to eat, love the child to the point of no control. The elderly do not know what food additives, and do not know that snacks are harmful to children's health, not to mention additives will damage the child's brain.

　　9. "Replace" the child to do things

　　Mum asked: Baby, where did you go to play today?

　　Then Grandma said, "We went to the park today.

　　Mum didn't say anything and then asked: Which child did you see today?

　　Grandma said: We saw whoever.

　　Another example, the child likes to help the mother before dinner to serve food, the elderly at home are very worried about the rice bowl will fall, usually the child is not yet up, the old man took over.

　　These behaviours, in fact, reduce the child's opportunity to learn on their own, which has an impact on the development of the child's language development and motor coordination and sealing ability.

　　10. Help your child dress

　　Many children are three or four years old, do not know how to tie their own shoelaces, can not wear clothes. Older people say that the child is small, adults should help, or that the child is not dressed correctly, will make people laugh at the adults did not do their duty. But in fact, there is a process for children to learn how to dress and wear shoes. If they make a lot of mistakes, they will slowly correct themselves. If you always help your child to wear shoes, your child will not have the chance to make mistakes and correct them, so naturally he will not do it.

　　11. Elderly people lack vigour

　　Nowadays, in big cities, many families have older people. This is because young people in big cities are delaying marriage and having children, and they have less time to spend with their children after work. The lack of physical contact between the elderly and the child can easily lead to a lack of security for the child. Skin-to-skin contact between mother and baby is the basis for babies to establish a sense of security.

　　When these children grow up, they will not take the initiative to communicate with others, nor do they know how to communicate with others; they tend to be introverted and even depressed.

　　12. The child falls down to pursue the responsibility of the table

　　The child hit the table fell, the old man rushed to the wailing child picked up, "hit it, the table is not good, hit the baby, hit it ......" This is the child-rearing or harm to the child? This kind of teaching, so that the child is not right and wrong, when they grow up, often their own mistakes and faults pushed to the objective environment or others, such children, not good at self-summarisation and correction, but also will eventually become self-deceived.

　　13. Deceiving children

　　"You will eat this bowl of rice, grandma will take you to buy candy later", "you go to bed, grandpa will take you to the park tomorrow" ...... As a result, the child happily ate and went to bed, but Grandparents deliberately forget the promise, or simply say "next time to buy you", "next time to take you to play", the child also has self-esteem, be cheated more, will develop the habit of suspicion, and gradually, also learn to cheat others.